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Love Connection
It turns out that subtly telling one another “hey, pay attention to me!” is one of the most common things we do in relationships with one another as humans…and…how we handle that moment can have profound effects on the health and future of our relationships and marriages.
If you want to know one simple, concrete thing you can do to improve your relationship with your partner TODAY - read this post.
Truthiness and Couples Therapy
Back in 2005, comedian Stephen Colbert created Webster’s word of the year that year on his hit satiric news show The Colbert Report, when he invented the word Truthiness. Truthiness, by definition, is the belief or assertion that a statement is true, based on how true something feels, rather than consulting evidence, logic, facts, or intellectual examination. Stephen Colbert applied this term Truthiness to describe how US politics works, where politicians and talking heads often made strong truth claims based on feelings about what was happening, rather than based on any sort of evidence, or logic to back up those claims (and I have to say, it doesn’t seem like the last 17 years has been marked by a decline in thinking rooted in Truthiness).
When Love Hurts: Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse
It seemed like a fairy tale at first. He was charming and charismatic, texting and calling constantly to compliment you, or just to see how your day was going. He even told you he loved you within weeks of dating, which no one had ever done! You feel special, desired, beautiful, and life is exciting and passionate. Roses show up at work for all your coworkers to see, and he drops off dinner at work for you when he knows you have to work late. He’s more thoughtful and romantic than any other guy you’ve dated. So exciting! You’re in love!
Why Women Stay in Abusive Relationships
Domestic violence is a real problem not just in the United States, but around the world. Statistics are showing that in the US alone 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men are victims of domestic violence, and over 10,000,000 people are affected by this type of abuse each year. While men are also victims of relationship violence, this article addresses issues around why women stay in these destructive relationships when their lives and often the lives of their children are in danger, and what factors make it so hard for them to leave their abuser?
Are You Living with a Partner Suffering with PTSD after Sexual Abuse?
Living with a person who has been sexually abused is hard! The abuse survivor often struggles with triggers he or she doesn't understand, making him or her overly reactive and difficult to live with. While your partner needs help from a professional, the truth is both partners need support.
Help Me, I’m Trapped! Boundaries While Social Distancing
If you have been social distancing for more than a week, the “snow day” mentality has likely worn off for you—that feeling that we all get when we get a day off for the weather, as if it’s a day out of time, lost to work and given over into fun and adventure. For the last few weeks, we have been hit with the sobering reality that these days are long and we are not quite sure when they will end.
For almost everyone, this has strained our coping mechanisms. While most folks are feeling grateful for their loved ones, those same folks seem to be ready to pull their hair out on occasion, at the seemingly boundaryless environment that social distancing has created. In the spirit of coming out of these trying days with our familial relationships intact and perhaps even stronger, let’s look at some ways we can observe healthy boundaries while keeping ourselves physically safe:
Taking Care of your Relationships During a Pandemic
The COVID-19 Pandemic has taken the world by storm, wreaking havoc on many American families.
The frustration and disappointment of the new “normal” can cause discord in the home.
So, how can we take care of our relationships during these stressful, scary, uncertain times?